My husband/wife wants to be babied

January 2009 can you believe it's another year gone? It's been some time now since I posted so I decided it's high time to start taking my writings serious and post weekly. I'm sure something I have to say can be beneficial to somebody in the world. My objective here in the next few post will be to inspire relationships. It appears that with the struggling economy comes stress at home for many married couples. I urge all married couples to shut off the T.V., turn down the radio, ask the kids to leave the room, and get yourself ready to make some major changes to improve your marriage.

Listen I know what you're saying, "there is nothing that could save our marriage!" as you begin to read your mind is wondering what does this guy know about marriage. For many maybe I don't have anything to offer, to others who are patient enough and try some of things mentioned will see improvement over the next few weeks. When things start to tumble we begin focusing everything on the bad that's happening in the relationship rather than focusing on what could improve the relationship. At this point I'm guessing you feel completely alone and if not then another person is filling the void your spouse once filled. Sure at the start of it all you both felt loved and were completely into each other as if nothing else in the world mattered much at all. Naturally it seems these are normally the happiest days of our relationship and we yearn for them to touch our soul. The question you're now asking yourself is, "So how do I get that feeling back?" The answer to that question is not easy to fulfill.

First thing you have to do is remove self from the picture and realize that if you make your spouse happy then happiness will come to you. For those who have kids imagine the love you have for that child, just for a moment think how you would go to the ends of the earth to insure that child's happiness. Now think about how great you feel when you child is happy. Think about the smile on your face the inner peace that becomes self evident as you tell your co-workers how proud you are of that child. Now think back to when you first married your spouse and how you had that same inner peace and ran and told all your girlfriends about him/her. You never stop and give up on a child so don't give up on your marriage. What you must do is study your partner, and find out what they complain about most. Is it the way you talk, how you dress, the things not done around the house, how you spend all the money, or not enough sexual pleasure. Once you begin to figure out what all the nagging is about it's much like a newborn baby who just wants their diaper changed suddenly the baby is quite and your satisfied once again and happy. You have to find that thing that will make your spouse happy in turn you will become more full field and your spouse will start to learn and do the things that make you happy.

I say for the next month give this a try as I will also and lets see what kind of results we can achieve. Don't tell your spouse you are attempting this just do it and record their feed back and watch as things change around the house.